By Megan/Image Credit: staystronghopeiscoming.tumblr.com
We’ve all had times in our lives where we feel completely helpless. Where we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. We often get discouraged and feel like giving up. Failure seems to ride us like a horse, bringing disappointment along for the journey. You feel as if everything is going wrong and the universe and God hates you.
None of that is true. Life hasn’t given up on you. Hope hasn’t given up on you. And God certainly has not given up on you.
You might be wondering, how can I overcome disappointment in my failures? How can things get better when nothing seems to go my way? How am I supposed to be happy all the time when life is dragging me so far down? I’d like to tell you that there is always a way to overcome. Just relax, you’ve got this!
In this life we are going to receive countless disappointments. Whether it be in school, at work, at home or elsewhere, but there is a way to overcome it. When I was running for Student Body Officer my eighth grade year, I was terrified. I wasn’t as well-known as my competition, and I began to get discouraged. It grew more once I found out that I had not made it. I was upset and kept questioning what I had done wrong. The following Sunday, as I was sitting in my Sunday school class, a thought came to my mind. It had nothing to do with the lesson, but somehow it made all the difference. I remember the thought distinctively, “This was not meant for you.” Sometimes in our lives we want things so badly, and when we don’t receive them, we get disappointed. We complain and often times we give up. But we should never give up.
Curious to hear responses, I asked a few of my peers to answer a question for me. The question was, how have you overcome disappointment in your life? The responses I received blew my mind. One of my peers wrote to me, “If you run and trip, get up and learn. Jump all obstacles. If you’re wounded you’ll heal, don’t ever stop.” As he shared this with me, I felt inspired. We are given hard times in this life, but we can push past them. We have the strength to endure everything that comes our way. If we fall, we can always get back up. We shouldn’t be afraid of pushing forward. If we put our mind to it, and if is the right thing for us to pursue, at the right time, then there is no need to stop.
Another friend of mine responded: “I accept it and move on, trying new things and new approaches.” Often times we think there is only one way to get something done. Once we’ve tried that way and failed, we immediately get disappointed and give up. Instead, we should press forward, trying every way we possibly can to accomplish our goals. There is always a way. And if there is no way, then it just wasn’t meant for us.
One of the responses I received touched my heart in a special way. She wrote, “Satan likes to make us feel like we can’t get back on our feet. But it’s NEVER true. Through the Savior and our Heavenly Father, we can ALWAYS get back up.” As I read this, I felt a little bit emotional. We often times feel like we have messed up too bad to deserve God’s grace. Sometimes we get so disappointed in ourselves and our failures that we are afraid to turn to our Father. That is never the case. When the world turns against you, turn towards Him. He can heal you. He can help you. He can carry you. God will never leave us alone. He is there for us, walking with us every step of the way. And if for some reason we shut Him out, he’ll be right there, waiting for us to let Him back in.
Doctrine and Covenants 61:36 reads: And now, verily I say unto you, and what I say unto one I say unto all, be of good cheer, little children; for I am in your midst, and I have not forsaken you.
This scripture so beautifully sums up our Savior. He will not leave us or forsake us. He will not walk away. He will be there every step of the way, helping us up when we fall, lifting us up when we are low. Disappointment and failure occur often in our lives, but I beg of you not to give in. There is always hope. There is always another way. Don’t let life bring you down. As one of my favorite quotes says, “It’s a bad day, not a bad life.” Feeling discouraged can be a heavy burden in our lives. It is so much easier to be happy. You can feel disappointed for a day, but not for life. Look around you, count your accomplishments rather than your failures. There is good in every day. Sometimes our eyes don’t see it, or they choose to overlook it. If you ever feel down on yourself, look for and focus on the good.
As we turn our hearts to our Savior and make an effort to be positive, good things will come our way. Bad things don’t last forever. And if you fail once, try again. If you fail twice, try again. If you fail one hundred times, do not give up hope. As many people say, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” I’m grateful for the disappointments I’ve had throughout my life. They have helped me grow and understand better what I’m capable of.
Through our positive mindset and through our Savior, we can be uplifted. We can be relieved of our heavy burdens. We can forget our failures and disappointments. We can be made strong again. We need to have faith that things will work out. And if they don’t work out now, do not get discouraged. God has a plan for you, and His timing is right. Please, always remember that there is more to life than failure and disappointment. Remember that life was given to us so that we could be happy. Make the most out of it. And if things don’t work out, keep pushing forward. And, if necessary, ask others to help you. There is a difference between being sad or discouraged and being depressed. Others who love you can help you recognize that difference and give you the help you need to find happiness again. You are never alone. With the Lord’s help, you’ll break through all the disappointments one day. Good things are coming your way. You’ve got this!