Dealing with Disappointment

By: Stockton

I have always had a big obsession with sports, particularly basketball. I absolutely love everything about the sport of basketball. I have played on the school team for the last 5 years, beginning in 7th grade.   This year, though, is different. In my last year of high school I did not make the team.

I was so disappointed. When I first found out, I cried for the first time in a long while.  It was super tough on me. It is still difficult for me to think of and talk about in just the few weeks since tryouts. Most people, when they deal with disappointment and sadness, tend to question why that specific thing has happened to them. I’ll admit, that’s what I did that first day. I felt as though I was good enough and deserved to play because of how hard I had worked leading up to that moment. But, after I had a day or two to handle my emotions I decided that I need not dwell on the negative of the situation and instead look for the positive and what I could learn from it.

I trust in God and I believe he has a plan for me just as he has a plan for everyone else. It has only been a few weeks since I didn’t make the team but I am starting to see the benefits.  The last two years of playing basketball always made me so stressed and extremely busy.  I never seemed to have much time to myself while having to deal with school, practice, games, and working. Now that I am free from the practicing and the games, I feel calmer and have more time to focus on school and work with some added me time in the mix. I have been very happy to be free from the stress of trying to play to the highest of my abilities at all times and now I can just play basketball for fun.

I am still not exactly sure why I needed this experience but I know that everything happens for a reason and I trust in the plan that God has for me. I also believe that I will eventually see the full benefits of not making the team and be grateful. Although some bad or disappointing things may happen in life, it is important to always keep a positive outlook and seek to learn and improve.

This article has 12 comments

  1. Jill Reply

    Stockton, we think you are pretty awesome. Thanks for sharing your experience and for being such a faithful example.

  2. Marilyn B Reply

    Stockton, thank you for your insightful post. I remember when our oldest son had this same exact experience. The growth and maturity that came into his life at that time could not have been reached in any other way. No doubt Heavenly Father has a plan for you and this experience and the growth that comes from it is important at this time of your life. You certainly are much more than basketball. Can’t wait to see what heights you can arise to in the future. Thanks for your post.

  3. Cory Reply

    Great post Stockton. Your faith and trust in God reminds me of Proverbs 3:5-6.

    5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
    6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for being such a terrific example for our family!

  4. Matt Newton Reply

    Stockton – this is a wonderful post. I appreciate you sharing your experience and how you felt – this will help so many people who have experienced a disappointment in life. I was touched by how mature and wise your outlook is – what a great blessing the gospel is to help us with this kind of perspective! Thank you for sharing!

  5. Doug Reply

    This great post causes me to invert President McKay’s famous line “no failure can destroy success in the family”.

  6. Joseph Reply

    Stockton well said. Life is full of these times. Thanks for sharing and enjoy your Senior year.

  7. Kerri Reply

    Thank you for sharing this Stockton! I love your positive outlook. It’s a life lesson to learn how to deal with disappointment, but I’ve always learned there’s something better around the corner. You’re going to do great things!!!

  8. Kathy Reply

    Thank you for sharing this post. These challenging experiences are when we grow the most, if we can learn to look at them the way you have. Great things are ahead for you!

  9. Dusty Dastrup Reply

    Stockton, you have learned at a young age, what some of us take a long time to figure out. I know that the Good LORD has great things ahead for you if you continue with that frame of mind.

  10. Lee Reply

    Thanks for the reminder that disappointments are frequently accompanied by unexpected blessings. I appreciate your insight.

  11. Mrs. Duckworth Reply

    So proud to have read your words, Stockton, and see just what kind of young man you have become. Many years ago when you were a part of my life in my classroom, I knew how determined you were to achieve and conquer all life would hand you. Proud to know you have discovered what will really make you happy in life…for all your life. My very best to you always young man♥️♥️

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