Three Things I Look for in Friends

by Andy

In my LDS seminary class (a religious class that I enroll in like a class at school), my teacher told us once that in our teenage years the two areas that influence us most are the media and our friends. That made me start to think a lot about who I was keeping company with and why I was surrounding myself with those people. Personally I thought that your family would influence you more than anything because those are the people that you share your home with, but as I thought more about it, I’m never home! Between school, sports and just hanging out I definitely am around my friends far more than I am around my family!

When you start thinking about it there are a ton of attributes that you might look for in a friend.  But there are three that are most important to me:  friends who are happy, friends who allow you to be a better person, and friends who help strengthen your testimony.  

Now, being happy doesn’t mean that your friend has to be smiley and giggly all the time, because that would just be weird. But, you do want a friend who is positive and complements your happiness.  I have a friend who I swear was just put on this earth to make other people happy and she seems to just love doing it.  She doesn’t seem to want any recognition she just genuinely enjoys making other people happy and that is why I love being around her and why she is such a good friend!  


One thing that I love about all my friends is that none of my friends discourage me from doing good and I know that seems like something any decent human being should be able to do, but my friends (who are the best friends ever)  will not only encourage doing good, but will join along with me.


Friends who help strengthen your testimony are the absolute best and they don’t even have to have a strong testimony or even a testimony at all to help strengthen yours.  If they just are a supportive friend and live their life in a way that makes it so you have the opportunity to grow as a person along side them then they are already helping you strengthen your testimony.  


I know that I have been blessed with great friends in my life and that I would not be where I am today without them.  I continue to strive to be a great friend to all my friends and to always be making new friendships.  I think that if you don’t have the best of friends right now I know that you will find them and that they will bless your life as much as you bless theirs.

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  1. Marilyn Barlow Reply

    I agree with your view on friends. Some people just require so much energy to keep them happy that it can pull you in an unwanted direction. Some people want company in doing ill towards others. Your conclusions about surrounding yourself with people with positive attitudes helps us all see how important it is to have good uplifting friends. Good advise for anyone of any age. Thanks.

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