Good friends are crucial in my life. My friends have a significant influence on who I am and who I will become. They help me to be a better person and make it easier for me to live the gospel of Jesus Christ. My friends bring me comfort in times of need. Good friends are significant in all of our lives. And to have good friends, we must be a good friend. Good friends love each other, listen to each other, and are good examples for each other.
To be a good friend we must first love our friends. The Savior loves all of us and has taught us to “Love one another, as I have loved you.”
Be kind to your friends. Show them that you love them. Serve them and do thoughtful things for them. Show your appreciation for them and all they do for you in your life. Be understanding and helpful. As you do so, they will come to know your love for them. As you show kindness, compassion, and appreciation for your friends, the same treatment will return to you.
Second we must listen to our friends. Show genuine interest in your friends lives. Show them you care. We must listen to our friends with real understanding and empathy. Seek someone to do the same for you. All people experience adversity in their lives. Trials, disappointment, sadness, sickness, and heartache are difficult parts of life. We all need someone to listen to us when we are having a hard time. We also need someone to listen to us when we are happy. Share your accomplishments with each other and additional things you care about and find valuable.
Third we must be a good example for our friends. Strive to be a good example to your friends whether they are of the same faith or not. Lift them up. Encourage them to rise to a higher standard. In return, search for friends who will be a good example to you. In the Ukraine there is a saying: “Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are.” This saying is incredibly true. The kind of friends you have, reflect the kind of person you are.
The LDS Church’s For the Strength of Youth guidelines advises, “As you seek to be a friend to others, do not compromise your standards. If your friends urge you to do things that are wrong, be the one to stand for the right, even if you stand alone.”
While describing a good friend, let us not forget our perfect example. The most important of all friends; without exception, is our Savior and Redeemer, Jesus Christ. I love many of my friends. But adore this One. I value His love, His compassion, and His mercy.
There is no burden He cannot lift. There is no comfort He cannot provide. There is no heart He cannot fill with joy. There is no thought you wish to share that He is not willingly to listen to. And there is no single being that He does not love unfathomably .
You can find this friend through humble and sincere prayer, obedience, and faith. If your life is in disarray, and if you seek friendship, then pray to Him. He will answer your prayers. I know that He will lead others to support you and guide you and lift you in your life. He has sent wonderful friends to me in mine and for that I am truly blessed.